Don't Understand

Last night we ate at Cracker Barrel. And it was decided that if we had to choose one place to eat at for the rest of our lives, then we would all choose Cracker Barrell. It's the variety and the fact that you can get breakfast all day.

The talk turned to boys, as it so often does when it is only girls at the table. And this is what I don't understand: I have amazing friends. Great Women. Seriously Funny. Generous. Dependable. Really Smart. Beautiful. And all single. What's with that?

In a way, it is easy to understand my single life. It is always easy to be critical of yourself and there are always things that I think need to improve. But then I look around at the multitude of great single women I know and I think that there is something else going on.

It is true that each of us in a little picky in her own way, but at the same time none of us are turning down dates. I don't believe that I have ever said no to a first date. (Well, except for the times when one of my students wants to set me up with someone. That is just too weird.) One of my friends instituted a "Take One for the Team" policy. The idea is that you are not allowed to turn down any date. Even if you might not be interested, you have friends, many of them, and this guy might be perfect for one of them. Even with the policy in full effect, we all remain dateless.
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Editorial Note: I started this post and wrote everything above on 10/24/05. And then I didn't have time to finish so I just saved it as a draft. Several time in the last 4 months this topic has come up. Again tonight. Except this time there was a boy at the table and we didn't talk about it in real depth, because who wants to come off looking that desperate? ____________________

I've tried the whole online thing and I am convinced that it is not for me. My experience has left me with the opinion that Neil Clark Warren is of the devil and his 29 dimensions of compatibility is a load of crap. Or maybe they aren't a load of crap, but rather a tool to get more of your money. It seems that you always get matched with people that are not in the least bit "compatible" (and the use of quotation marks is appropriate in this case) until your subscription is about to run out. Then they will actually match you with someone who seems decent and this will suck you in to paying for another 3 months just in case he is the one. Of course you eventually end up going out with the guy who claimed that he is 5'6" and turns out to be 5'4". No more online stuff for me.

Today at my weekly Chinese lessons, my teacher offered to set me up with some men. I don't want to be accused of being picky, but seriously, am I suppose to say yes to that offer?

I don't know what the answer is. I guess I will just continue to wait and trust. And have conversations with me friends about the reasons we are all single.